Help! Looking Desperately For Advice On How To Make This Work!!?

I have been seeing a wonderful guy for the last 6 months. We are deeply, madly in love. But . . .





First, we live 100 miles apart. Aside from a couple of vacations, we see each other only on the weekends. So far, it's OK, but . . .





I have had a very shaky job history (not by my choosing!), just started a new job, and need to stay put. He is working, going to school and lives at home with his parents.





Our original plan was he'd get his associate's degree by May, and then transfer down here and we'd move in together.





But now I find out that he wants to go for his Bachelor's degree, (an extra 2 years of school). He could look at schools down here, but it'd be a year before he'd qualify for in-state tuition.





He's scared that if it doesn't work out, he'll be in a strange city with little $$, which I totally understand. I also have to find a new place by April - we need to make some decisions soon. I don't want to lose him, but I think we need a suitable solution %26amp; we can't find 1Help! Looking Desperately For Advice On How To Make This Work!!?
You are rushing and it sounds like you are all that togther to begin with (shaky job history).





Look if this man is right for you he will be right for you today, tomorrow and next month, not just today.





You need to each focus on making yourself the best person you can be and then you can work on relationships, not before.





You are NOT READY for this move and neither is he. Stay put, stay working, have him stay put and stay in school. Re-think everything in a year!Help! Looking Desperately For Advice On How To Make This Work!!?
Did he ever consider going into his field and waiting to go for the BA later? Many Employers will help with tuition after a certain time period especially if it is a degree that will help the company.
Please take no offense to what I'm about to say. A little tough love if you will. I'm thinking that since you need to be out by April, and your job(s) have been unstable .... you should just move closer to him. Maybe find an apartment together and you get a job in his area. I'm feeling he is very serious about his education. I'm not for sure how you stand on academics, but you both will benefit if he gets a Bachelor's Degree. If you guys have been in a long distance relationship for 6 months are still madly in love ... I'd say you wil get through this as well. It sounds like the ball is in your court. Take the chance and move to where he is. I'm sure you can find a good paying job. Good luck to ya !
If your relation ship is working now than why change it. If your really madly in love than you should be able to wait the 2 years. Have you thought of looking for work where he lives? If you really want to fix this you can.
not sure how young you both are, but school is very important. a bachelor degree will add $10-15000 more to your annual income alone, as it will open the doors to much better jobs.





100 miles is not that far, as long as one of you has a car.. you can see each other every weekend..





since you seem to be changing jobs all the time, try to look for work where he is going to school. if he's gonna be there 2 years at least, then it would make more sense for you to look for work there..





but meanwhile, long distance isn't a problem.. long distance relationships are only a problem if there is no feasible solution for you to be together at some point..





my long distance relationships failed, but that was becuase the distance was 500 miles for one and 1100 for the others.. so rarely got to see them..