Advice, tips,dos and donts,etc on how to keep guy of my dreams for boyfriend! dont want to ruin it!?

hey my crush asked me out and i said yes1 give me advice tips dos and donts! first boyfriend! my 15 and in 9th grade!


peace thanks


sarahAdvice, tips,dos and donts,etc on how to keep guy of my dreams for boyfriend! dont want to ruin it!?
a lot of this is about how you guys interact... but in general dont be too clingy. give him space but also let him always know that you are interested in him.Advice, tips,dos and donts,etc on how to keep guy of my dreams for boyfriend! dont want to ruin it!?
Just be your self. Totally just your self, its who he asked out so just have fun, the only person he will like is u, not anyone people tell u to be.


or what i like to do is read up a character piece on there star signs,it reali helps to find out things he likes or hates.
Dear Sarah:





This is So GRAND!


You must be so very happy %26amp; excited.





Do's:


Just have FUN, Sarah!


Be your genuine good self!


Many boys like to talk about sports!


Ask him what movies %26amp; music he likes.


Talk about family %26amp; school too.


Be a good listener.


Dress sharp %26amp; rather conservative.


Be positive %26amp; supportive.


(He may be a little shy %26amp; nervous.)





Don'ts:


YOU~Try NOT to be too nervous.


Just breathe %26amp; stay relaxed.


(sometimes easier said then done. :-)


Try not to dominate the conversation


too much. Don't seem too ';needy';.





Enjoy your time together!


Go get um Tigeress!





Good Luck girl!

lips

I'm running for homecoming princess and i would like some advice on how to win? =?

The only advice that I can give you ,is to post your question in the correct category.I'm running for homecoming princess and i would like some advice on how to win? =?
Homecoming ---- Royalty.





I fail to see the connection.





Homecoming questions belong in some social category.I'm running for homecoming princess and i would like some advice on how to win? =?
don't be a snob about this,because if you are then people are not going to vote for you.be confident but not to confident if you know what i mean:)
Be as pleasant and as charming as you know how to be....nice people who are pleasant and have a good sense of humor...and who adopt a philosophy of live and let live always have more admirers than the other kinds of people.

Im going on a trip with my love and need some advice on how to make it one of the most romantic trips ever?

Dont over do it. Have dinner at the restaurants around, Keep the talk about the vacation, and NOT about the normalities of life. Really get away from it all... Have fun.Im going on a trip with my love and need some advice on how to make it one of the most romantic trips ever?
wake him with a bjIm going on a trip with my love and need some advice on how to make it one of the most romantic trips ever?
idk
make sure there is lots of sex. guys like the girl to take charge and put the moves on us once in awhile..
The key is to enjoy the trip. Take time to experience new things together. Pick at least one thing while on your trip that you have never done before and that would be a unique experience and spend the money and time to do it. For instance on our last vacation my wife and I went horseback riding in the sea where the horses actually had to swim and we had to hold on. Also, don't let the problems that are bound to occur get to you. Things never go perfect so just relax and roll with the changes. Romance is built by a couple that manages to enjoy the fact they are together experiencing life regardless of the good and bad they encounter.
do some naughty things - sex on the beach, on the balcony, in the pool after midnight, bj in the mornings while massaging his prostate, let him have your butt.......when on vacation, sex sex and more sex is memorable

Advice on how to get my crush to know that I like him?

Ok so this upcoming week I'm going to the movie theater with the friend that I have a crush on. He doesn't know anything about me being bi or that kinda stuff, but is there anything SUBTLE and SMALL (nothing big!) that I can do just to get him closer to me? like little things to just give him a little hint that i like him? oh yeah and another thing: its not just gonna be me and him alone, some other friends are coming along too so yeah. It'll be a little harder but I don't care, I just don't want to say ';I'm bi and I love you'; right at his face. Again, just some small things I can do to give him a hint... (i'm 15 by the way, and yes i'm a guy)Advice on how to get my crush to know that I like him?
I am an uncontrollable flirt when I like a guy. The most important things are making him laugh, showing him that you care about him (this can range from anything from remember things that he says, to going out of your way to sit next to him or talk to him, to getting him a gift), bonding (my favorite is staying up long hours of the night talking to each other - it always helps), and modest, friendly physical contact (ranging from a pat on the back, to a hand shake, to a friendly hug, and whatever else you can improvise on the spot. Complimenting him at any chance you get also doesnt hurt.





Upon doing these things, it is pretty easy to gauge his reaction to determine what team he is on.Advice on how to get my crush to know that I like him?
Just be yourself but pay a little more attention to him than you would normally. I don't think that you can do too much since other people will be around but if you just let a look linger here and there or smile more at him, then I think you would be sending a message. But if he's not gay, you don't want to overdo it. It could frighten him off. You need to build up to the point that both of you are going out alone together and then you can let him know how you feel. But since this is the first time, and you don't know his feelings, take it slow. Good luck.
Is your crush gay? If he is tell him how you feel. If he's not then don't go there. If you're not sure then be careful.


If you can't give us all the details then you can't expect a proper answer.
why risk the friendship? If your doing just because of your hormones right now( and that's what it sounds like to me) I don't think it's a good plan. If you really do 'Love' I guess it's going to come out in the open sooner or later though.
put out?
u could be risking alot but its probly worth it. just rub ur leg against his or squeeze his thigh, and if he doesnt respond negatively, then squeeze closer and closer to the crotch

I met someone in Cancun, I have partial email I know he lives in Detroit any advice on how to get email?

Hg, you have an email account as part of your Answers account with Yahoo.


Did you give your address to the guy you met?


If you did not and you don't have his email address then all I can suggest is you Google this guys name.


If he has a Myspace or other profile it will be listed.

How can I tell when she wants advice and help to solve a problem or when she just wants to vent and complain?

Women, are there specific speaking structures or phrases that you use when you want your man to listen and when you want your man to respond?





Or is it just a guessing game that I never seem to win?





Men, how does your woman let you know what she wants?How can I tell when she wants advice and help to solve a problem or when she just wants to vent and complain?
Let her ask for the advice or help. That's the easiest way. If you don't hear a question of ';what should I do?'; or something, then just say, ';I'm sorry, I know it's tough for you right now'; or some such thing. I'd guess that's your best bet.How can I tell when she wants advice and help to solve a problem or when she just wants to vent and complain?
I'm not sure that there is a specific way to go about this. Women are pretty unpredictable and even I have trouble telling whether or not my gal friends want me to listen to them or give them advice.





I think the best thing is to wait for her to ask you for advice.
Women want 4 things in any order: 1) Unconditional love, 2) passion; 3) to be held and 4) to be listened to.





If your provide these for your woman, what she wants will never be a guessing game.
Women don't want you to solve it for them...they want you to listen....perhaps make suggestions...but mostly listen...





We seem to solve problems but have to talk about it so we can rationalize it in our heads...





oh and beware...most men don't win.....
if she stops talking and just looks at you, answer. if she doesn't stop talking, just make sure you are listening and add in some quick sounds so she knows that you are still ';with her';
always respond. no matter what. thats what we want.

Advice on how to deal with child!

i have a 12 year old child who has severe learning disabilities, she is very hyperactive and is constantly working her ticket, she hits me and smashes up things and its really starting to get too me. i need help!Advice on how to deal with child!
I think a good spanking should do the trick. Disipline, disipline disipline. Stand your ground and don't take it. Your being manipulated. Learning disabilities do not cause this behavior. It's behavior problems that are causing it. Hyperactivity can be helped by medication from a doctor. But in spite of it all, you have to gain control of your child and make them learn your the boss.Advice on how to deal with child!
Firstly, if she is under a specialist, get advice and help from them, or if you have to go it alone





make her earn priveleges,only reward good behaviour, and take away priveleges/ground her for bad behaviour, and stick by it.





Work in hand with your partner and family. It's no good one person doing one thing, then someone else totally going against that. This young lady needs to learn that bad behaviour gets her nowhere.


Please don't think I am branding you bad parent's. I am not. At 12 she is reaching the age where she wants to spread her wings a bit, which is allowable, providing she stays within the rules you set.


A final resort may be contact your local police station, and see if a short shift in the cells after she has attacked you will give her the jolt to bring her back into line.


I know nobody wants to go that far, but sometimes the only way is to go to the extreme.


Good luck,


Mike t.
Congrats on your child! The thing to do is to maybe put her in time out for a while until she calms down. Try also to do the things she does with her to make her feel like you like interacting. If that doesnt work then you may have to sit her down and explain to her that she can play but she has to tone it down. The hitting means she takes you not so seriously, I would suggest putting your foot down more often. This shows her when your playing and when your not. =) GOOD LUCK!
GET HER HELP, NOW! If she's doing that stuff at that age, she could have something much worse than mere 'learning disabilities'. She could be autistic or have asperger's, or be mildly mentally retarded. GET HER TO A BEHAVIORAL OR CHILD SPECIALIST! Put her on meds. And why are you asking US what to do? Isn't your husband the one to talk to?
go to your doctor find out what is actually wrong with her like ADHD or autism and then find out what support its avaiable to u my friend has daughter 7 with adhd and 5 year old who has autism and she get resbite care for them they go on days out with people and weekends away just so she can have a time out xx
oh that sounds familiar. my little brother is 12 and he has a learning disability too. he's always screaming, he used to hit ppl. now he's calmer. wat helped us was that we switched his classrooms. the kids in his old class were far worse than him and he wud copy them. now he's in a different program and the change was drastic. he still has a few things here and there but it helped. wat have doctors told u?
sue is right the best thing to do is to get her the help she needs if she has disabilities she may need medication. talk to her doctor.
Get her help while she's still young or it will just get worse as she gets older.
u need 2 take out ur belt and hit her but not 2 hard jus hard enough so dat she kno i cant do dat

lips

Advice on how to sing Metal?

Does it have anything to do with having a good voice or is it just passion? If I want to start singing I prefer a growling type of style because I think Paul DiAnno is a bada$$ freaking singer so I wonder if he has a so-called special voice for singingAdvice on how to sing Metal?
Alot of it has to do with what works for you. I know that alot of the high pitched screaming is falsetto, and it comes from the diapragm. if you sing that way through your throat, you are going to destroy your vocal chords. As for the gutteral lows, you just have to try out things within your self that work.Advice on how to sing Metal?
Well a voice is part of it but passion and learning play huge parts. I say you become as good as what you listen to, and I usually say that for guitar and drums (I play drums) but I don't see how it doesn't work for singing too. If you like growling, check out Avenged Sevenfold live, and Pantera. And Bruce Dickinson of Iron Maiden also has a kickass voice. If you wanna be a metal singer, I'm sure you can. =)

I am 75 kg. i need to reduce my weight. can anyone advice me how to and what to do.....?

Yoga works wonders!


Believe me!


Try kapalvati, anulom vilom, vasrika ,etc.


Guarenteed weight loss upto 6kgs in a month.





Don't diet but try to eat healthy.


You can also try other exercisesI am 75 kg. i need to reduce my weight. can anyone advice me how to and what to do.....?
eat well ,healthy and walk alot


dont mention diets *they never work because every body is different then other*I am 75 kg. i need to reduce my weight. can anyone advice me how to and what to do.....?
eat regularly boiled Bottle gourd (Louki) before (30 minutes ) Dinner / Lunch it is useful





Drink Luke warm water 2.5 liter. every day





Do excerise two time
We are what we eat.Though heredity and certain diseases are also responsible for obesity,our food habits are the main cause for overweight. One has to be careful in eating carbohydrates Ex.cereals, sugars,cakes,plantains,etc. Cut these down to the bear minimum.Also avoid fatty foods.Ex. meat.chicken skin, oils.etc.You should also do exersises like running,cycling ,swimming asanas , breathing exersises. one or more of these you should practice daily.Fasting does't help much. Drink four to five liters of water daily. Looks like long list?.There is no other way except to follow this itienary If you want to reduce your weight.
Listen to all about losing weight but you will not lose weight until you sit down and write your own formula for weight loss. You know best about your body, your eating and your emotions.





Weight loss depends on strong determination, changing of eating habits and adopting healthy life style. However, here are few tips on losing weight.


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Advice on how to love more my dad...?

My dad is okay, but sometimes I can't stand him that I feel angry and hate toward him...I no longer want to have these sorts of feelings toward my dad.





Any advice...Advice on how to love more my dad...?
Ask yourself why you hate your dad so much.





Your hatred is within you.





The solutions lie within.





Why would you hate your dad?Advice on how to love more my dad...?
Try to get to know your dad as a person, not just dad. What dreams did he have, what is his job really like. Things like that.
try to spend time with him u will lose thoes fillings
I'm betting that there's more to this question than meets the eye. Your feelings probably have good cause behind them, but it is important for you to come to terms with where you come from so that you can feel good about you. I'd suggest trying to find some literature on forgiving parents in order to move on in your own life, and whatever may be more specific to your personal situation. If your dad is a reasonable person, perhaps you could even attempt some joint counseling sessions. Good luck! And remember that even the darkest seeming person has some good quality about them somewhere.
okay, I kinda know how you feel. Cause I'm the youngest one in the family. And sometimes my sisters is closer to my dad then I am, and he'll ask me to get him a bottle of water or some cereal. And it really makes me mad. I know he works a ton so I don't mind him asking me. But when he JUST asks me it kinda bugs me. So what I do is, I go in another room. AND TAKE A DEEP BREATH! And sometimes I hold my breath for 10 sec. And let out all my anger. So DONT blow up on him! Cause wat calms me down is knowing my dad can go away any sec. now! And then the last memory I'm going to have of him is that I blew up in his face!





And also maybe if you go to work with him it really helps you walk in his shoes. And knowing that he's a hard worker and just trys to keep you happy. Hope this helps!
My husband is a wonderful step-father to my children and a wonderful father to his own children. The problem however, is that every time he tries to spend time with his kids, they are too busy for him. When holidays come up, they always have other plans and never, ever spend the holidays (any holiday) with him. His daughter snubs him one moment and then is loving the next. His son rarely spends time with him and when he does spend time with him, he often seems like something is bothering him. When my husband tries to find out what's wrong, his son always says everything is fine and says what he thinks his father wants to hear.





Some time ago, his kids sat down with him and told him they were upset with him for a comment he made a very, very long time ago, and they were upset that he didn't make more of an effort to spend time with them (they live with their mother). My husband apologized to his kids and he has tried very hard to spend time with his kids, but they blow him off and are too busy. He tries to make sure they are okay and that nothing is bothering them, but they shut him out. They are friendly to him for the most part, but they are definately not acting like they care about him as their father. He has done nothing to deserve that and it hurts him greatly.





That said, I can tell you that unless your father has done something to specifically upset you, you need to cut him some slack. When you treat your father like you are mad at him or don't love him, you can't imagine how MUCH that hurts him. He may or may not show it, but most fathers want to be good dads and feel bad if their kids perceive them as bad fathers. If your feelings about your father are the result of something he has done or said or not done or said, then you should sit down and talk with him and tell him how you feel. He can't try to make things right with you if he doesn't have a clue how you are feeling and why. Even if you don't know why you feel as you do, you should still talk to your dad. I would give him the chance to try to understand you better so that he can do his part to try to make your relationship with him better.





Best wishes to you on this.
My brother and dad are the same way. Just sit down and talk to him and tell him the things that you can't stand about him. I think that will help. It seemed to have worked for my brother and dad.

Advice on how to do it in tha shower? Help?

My bf %26amp; I would like to try this and be protected b/c we do use protection but how do you that in the shower? does anyone no? or has anyone tried this before?? HELPAdvice on how to do it in tha shower? Help?
wear protection and for the girl use a sponge or some type of protection to , have him bend you over

I lost the drivers for my soundcard so can please give me some advice as to how to get my audio back working?

Go to http://driverguide.comI lost the drivers for my soundcard so can please give me some advice as to how to get my audio back working?
Get a Mac. http://www.apple.com/getamac/





here's a similar question:





If you're drowning, and a ladder pops down for say $729CND, do you take it?


Answering questions with questions is the way of the future.


- Rob | www.hellablog.co.nrI lost the drivers for my soundcard so can please give me some advice as to how to get my audio back working?
hmm....ok!


first of all :


1.do u know the name of your hardware ???


2. if u know, then goto softpedia.com and search your driver and suitable software for it.


3.download it!





DONE!
Reinstall the motherboard cd (driver cd)! When you insert the cd it will auto run, from there download the sound card drive if u have interneal souncard what came with ur mother board!
What audio controller do you have?
Go to the device manager and uninstall the sound device. Re boot the computer and it will see it as a new device and re install it all together works for me all the time.
you need to do a search on google and type in drivers and whatever model your soundcard is and then you can download the drivers for that soundcard.
U just register with www.driverguide.com for free and download


any driver for any OS.There are millions of drivers to choose from and as per Ur hardware.
what windows are u working on? most the time if it'sxp the driversare still there all u have to do is restart and it should automatically reinstall your drivers

lips

Advice needed, how to approach when pregnant.?

Okay. Well I've known I've posted my share of posts, I'm just concerned at this point and what I need is support.





I am only 15 years old. Don't start filling this post with ';Well, maybe that's why you shouldn't have sex at a young age and be irresponsible'; or ';Did you just have a sex education class and you're worrying?';





I am VERY mature for my age. I grew up with a tough life, and it's made my mind age faster, as I would say.





Basically, at this point, I am 99.9% sure I am pregnant. Not by choice, it was more of a roofie slipped into my drink. So this will be hard. I've missed two periods and I NEED to get a test done. If I am, I want to make sure this baby is healthy, and that I'm healthy. I'm starting to stress over this, really.





What would be a good way to approach my aunt? She's pretty understanding, though I know she wont go for this. She's been there with my parents at my age. I need her to get me a test, I have no other way. I'm very concerned. I have all the symptoms. Help?Advice needed, how to approach when pregnant.?
Is there a reason why you feel you can't go to a dr. without her? Find out a planned parenthood online, confidential, and see what options you may want to consider.Advice needed, how to approach when pregnant.?
I would start by trying to get a home pregnancy test at the drug store. It does sound like you probably are pregnant, but it is possible that stress or just abnormal periods have caused you to miss your period.





If the test comes back positive, then obviosly you are going to need to tell your family at some point. However, if there is a planned parenthood in your area then you can go see them confidentially for support and medical attention.





In talking to your aunt I would tell her that you have something important to talk to her about, but you are not ready to tell your parents just yet. Ask her before you tell her if she thinks that she would be willing to help you without talking to them. If she says no then think about if you want to tell her. If she says yes start with the whole story starting with the roofies...





Good luck and I hope that you get all of the support and care you need!
I can't say anything about having sex so young. I began at age 14 and lucky for me I didn't get pregnant until after I was married for 2 years. So, I'm not going to nag about the age thing, I think if your old enough to make the sex decision, then your old enough to live with the out come. So, you think your pregnant, I assume your still in school. You are 15, and you need to approach your aunt. Well, just be up front and honest. Tell her staright from the begining. If she knows you are having sex then she knows that there is a possibility you could get pregnant. If she doesn't know then break it to her gently, and tell her gently that you may be pregnant. I think it would be a wise choice, to have your child. You are practically a child yourself and yes it would be hard to have a baby, go to school and work a part time job. But I guess thats where the decision to have sex, comes with the responsibility to care for what you help create. I will tell you that rasing children is difficult. I myself am a stay at home mom of now a 1 year old and my next baby is due in Septemeber 07. And I love my baby and the baby on the way, but I'm confused and scared for what the future holds as well. My husband works and I will be rasing the kids until he comes home from work. I think if your bf helped to make this child he should help out. Willingly or not, He will have to pay child support which will help out with day care costs. Let me tell you, I know it would be hard to be pregnant so young, but if you set your mind to do something, stick to it and get it accomplished. Thats the same as approaching your aunt. Be brave, and be honest. That is my best adivce. Have your baby, and be a great mother. I have had one miscarriage before my husband and I got married and to this day I still wonder about that unborn baby that died. So, please just keep that in mind. Abortion isn't always the way to go. And you CAN accomplish your dreams with a baby, you'll have a little help mate in seeing all your dreams come true, and you'll be more proud of yourself when that little one tells you mommy your doing a great job, or when they smile at you and you know you've done something great. So, good luck and I hope all goes well for you. Should you need further help or advice feel free to email me at amandaappling_21@yahoo.com Once again I wish you the best!
Go to Planned Parenthood and get tested for STDs and to confirm if your are pregnant or not. If you trust your aunt then tell her --- do not do this alone. Good Luck.
someone drugged you??? I would be more concerned about having a STD. Did you go to the police and report this??





And you dont need to go to your aunt until you go and see a doctor. A doctor can not tell your aunt anything with out your consent. Doctors can run tests to see if there is anything wrong with your child. That way it gives you the choice to terminate if you want to because of illness. But get your butt to the doctor for an STD test.. Being pregnant is the least of your worries right now if you have AIDS!
Don't worry, I'm not going to give you a lecture about how young you are. I'm sorry that this is happening to you but kudos to you for being so responsible about how to go about this matter. If I were you, I would meet with your aunt in person and sit down with her, then talk to her about it provided that no one else is there since you'd like this to be a private matter. It's good that you have someone you can talk to through this.





I agree with the above poster in some areas. You should definitely get tested for STD's just to be on the safe side and if you have any recolection of who might have drugged you, please try to report them to the authorities so it doesn't happen to another girl like yourself.





Take care hun and stay safe.
don't panic okay...first since u said that ur aunt is understanding then tell her that it was all a mistake that u didn't mean to get pregnant...then u find out if ur really pregnant or not...if u r don't stress out because its not good for the baby secondly try to finish school no matter how tough life gets never give up on education trust me u'll need it later...thirdly don't let people treat u differently try ur hardest to still have a normal life although its hard keep ur head up and do ur best to make sure that u and ur baby receive a healthy and normal life. I WISH U THE BEST GOOD LUCK:)
hey girl... how things??!! got to go to the doctor girl... its not going to matter what your aunt has to say.... just tell her... the main thing right now is you and the babys health... you know how to get in contact with me....

Advice on how to stand up to my father?

Okay, here is the whole situation...


My parents got divorced when I was 15 years old, due to my dads infadelity and my moms resulting alcoholism. I chose to live with my dad. My mom filed for divorce the day we moved away. My mom got behind on her child support payments. By oklahoma(which is where they were divorced) law, Child support ends when the child turns 18. I am now 19, married with my own child, and my mom is still having to pay my dad, because he thinks she owes him. Last June my dad had me sign a document, after he told me that it would end my moms payment. Immediately after, my mom told me she got a letter stating that she still owed $2000. My mom and I have both done the math, and she should have been done when i signed that document. My mom filed an appeal, and now she got a letter saying that her appeal was suspended and the case was reopened in Nebraska. I feel my mom is being taken advantage of and i need to know how to stand up to him since my mom is afraid to.Advice on how to stand up to my father?
well let me jump in your body for a second because i would let him have it ....it might be back payments but still he seems like an @** hole. but the courts would have to sort out those issues with the whole payment thing... The best thing to do to your father is to tell him how you feel about this and anything else you have felt or feel about him. If your scared of him do it over the phone and don't let him speak over you hold your ground and get loud and stern.. the reason why he probably treats you and your mom bad is because no one has stood up to him but now it's time for some one too.. because if you hold it in it will eat you up for the rest of your life... i was kind of scared to say things to my father because of his abuse of my mom and for not being there for us but when i was 13 i wrote him a letter saying if you ever touch or even think about touching her again ( even though they wasn't and are not together today) but he yelled at her at a family members funeral i told him i would kill him and i meant it and he still remembers this now and I'm 24 years old..and a couple of years ago me and my brother confronted him about how we have felt and feel and about him ..we finally let him have it even though he still remains the same i still feel and felt better afterward because i wanted to stand up to him all of these years and i finally got too. it is his lost not to really have a relationship with us ( even though we talk to him) not mine so what I'm saying to you is you have to tell him because if you don't u will regret it for as long as you live and if he don't change then cut him off and live your life and let him live happily ever after with his lazy @** wife. Also remember you are not 15 no more you are a young woman now that has her own family and her own mind and now you can stand up for yourself. He will need you before you need him just keep that in mindAdvice on how to stand up to my father?
Under Federal and State law in all 50 states of the USA, child-support ends at 18 or when the child graduates from school.





However, if over the years your mom was behind in child support payments, and she may very well be behind by $2,000 she still has to pay every penny owed under the child support order.





Case in point: A father failed to pay any child support for 15 years, the state of utah searched for him and finally located him just 3 years ago. His children are all in their 40's now. The state confiscated everything he owned House, vehicles, camp trailer, furniture etc. They held an auction and sold all of it. Then the state deducted the back child support and gave him the balance of the money.





If she owe's the money she'll have to pay it, ask the state to do an audit of the account to see if she still owes money. Sometimes the states make errors.
You said she got behind in payments. Perhaps the amount in question is that back support ?


It depends on how the document was worded. But if you have been married...support would stop at THAT date; with the exception of LATE payments.
I think Type A gave you very good advice. I would only ad this: This particular issue, while it involves you is really between your mother and your father. From your question and the additional details you gave it seems that you have some issues with both parents apart from the child support issue. Is it possible that some of those issues are fueling your need to get involved in this battle between them?





Perhaps it is time to focus on those issues that are personal to you and your relationship with your father or your mother. It's a scary thing to do. It is much easier to rally your courage when you are fighting in defense of someone else ( in this case your mother) but it is important for you (as your mother should have done) to learn how to fight your own battles, even against someone you find intimidating.





You sound like a strong person, and one who has a very good head on their shoulders. Don't waste your energy trying to fix this thing between your parents. Instead use it to deal with those issues with your dad (and mom too) that are most relevant to you, your growth and your life. Type A's suggestions will work wonderfully to help you do so.
C onsult legal aid on this issueIf you have a copy of the document then take it to a lawyer and they will cinfirm whether or not your mum still owes him money.They can set something in writing to your dad.
Is your dad an approachable person? Have you ever been faced with asking him a difficult question in the past? What was his reaction? If you already know it won't be a good reaction then what you can do is talk to someone he will actually respond to maybe a sibling or an aunt or uncle. Or write him a letter. I have been able to get many feelings out this way. Especially if you know the conversation will be an emotional one writing is usually very helpful when trying to get your statement across.





Also did you read what you were signing? Because sometimes people (even our folks) will ask us to sign something telling us it is one thing and it is something completely different.





Lastly, if your mom fell behind on her payments and never got caught up then she just might still owe him money. Why I say that is because my husband was paying child support for his 3 boys well two of his boys are now 20 and 19 yet he is still paying the full amount as if they were all minors. The reason is the same past due child support or arrears. So essentially the months that he did not pay the boy's mom had to find additional money to supplement the deficit she incurred when he did not make the payments. So essentially he is paying her back. Make sense? I hate it cause it feel like she is getting money for 3 kids when she only has one but it is rightfully hers since there were times when he did not give her the money she needed to raise the boys.





HTH


Type A

I think my g/f may have gotten pregnant on purpose and im looking for some advice on how to ask her about it?

my g/f and i have been dating for about 4 and a half yrs, she's 29, im 22 and a half. About 2 weeks ago she informed me that she was preg and will be keeping the baby. she was on the pill the whole time we were dating (allegedly) so i never used a condom or any other type of birth control. i have a few reasons why i think she got preg on purpose the main one being that i ran into a friend of hers yesterday who congratulated me and said she was happy for us b/c ';she knew how much my g/f wanted a baby'; which was news to me! i just graduated from college and have a good job now and my g/f has been out of college for 7 yrs so financially this isnt a problem, i just am in no way ready to be a dad b/c of the huge change that bringing a child into the world will have on someone's life. just a few month ago she and i were talking about how neither one of us is ready for marriage yet so that isnt an option. on top of this, my mom is gonna kill me! any advice would be greatly appreciated, thanx.I think my g/f may have gotten pregnant on purpose and im looking for some advice on how to ask her about it?
Chances are at her age she felt her clock ticking and thought that if dhe didnt jump now the chance would be gone. If you do ask her about getting pregnant on purpose be cool and dont accuse her (her hormones are a little whack)she might flip out. Just do it smooth say well i was thinking about this and its great but I thought you were on the pill and this wouldnt happen of course I should have always used protection but since it was stated that you were protected I didnt and thought that if your protected status changed that you would have let me know, this makes me feel like you trapped me especially since (her friends name) said congrats I know (gf name) has been wanting one why didnt you say something. So thats my advice for you and just so you know no one is EVER READY for a baby but it happens and you step up trust me I wasnt looking to get pregnant both of my kids were ';accidents'; so to speak but I wouldnt change it and just so you know Im about to be 22 and my husband is almost 24 and our kids are 3 1/2 and 13 months and when our first was born my then bf(husband) was only 20 and we had not been together as long as you and your gf and 2 years after our first kid was born we got married so good luckI think my g/f may have gotten pregnant on purpose and im looking for some advice on how to ask her about it?
You are out of college and financially stable and your mommy is going to kill you? GROW UP!





It doesn't matter how much birth control you did or did not use. YOU HAD SEX - she didn't get herself pregnant.





Advice? Step up to your responsibility.
Updated





1.Your mom doesnt run your life so what she says doesnt even factor





2. Being on birth control is not an automatic, you won't get pregnant. People can get pregnant on birth control. Many women yearn for babies and do not tell their partners because they know that the partner is not ready. That doesnt mean she did it on purpose and the friend may not be reliable





3.If in doubt you should of used a condom as well but that's water under the bridge





4.Sex can bring on babies, You should of factored this in. I know you don;t want to hear that but it is always a risk when having sex





5. and a half years is a long time. Do you not know your girlfriend? Does this sound like something she would do? I don't know if this is the time you should be bringing it up because if you are wrong it could cause alot of problems between you, but if you felt it was on purpose you need to talk to her. Plain and simple. 4 years is a long time. Its not like you guys hardly know each other. Maybe you can make it work. I don;t agree with her saying she is going to keep it without any discussion but in the end it is her body
Sometimes women get pregnant on the pill. They are not 100%. You have been with her for over 4 years, and that's a really long time. Just talk to her and see where things lead. Just think, this could end up being the best thing that has ever happened to you!!
Even if your g/f was on the pill, that is only 97-99% positive that it will work. She could have been in the 2% that get pregnant on the pill. There is nothing you can do about it but be there for your baby. It takes 2 people to make a baby no matter what and this should have been discussed before you started having sex, because anything can happen. Good luck to you. And as for telling other people, I'd wait until she is atleast 3 months because her body can always reject it before then.
I guess the best way would be to just outright ask her. Tell her about the friend mentioning that she wanted a baby badly.





The pill isn't 100%. In fact there was a study released today saying how the newer pills are less effective in order to reduce risks of blood clots and strokes. Regardless, she's pregnant and keeping it. Its your responsibility. If you didn't want a baby, you should have protected yourself. You're an adult, your Mom needs to accept that you've been doing adult things. I'm sorry you're stressing. Calm down and try not to fly off the handle at her. She's in a quite emotional state right now. You'll live, trust me. Best of luck.
It is very possible that she got pregnant on purpose. Many women do this. But that does not really matter now that she is pregnant.
Hopefully you plan on loving the baby and taking care of the baby. If this is the case, don't worry about her motives because it may make you look at the baby differently and it may shape your relationship with your future child.





Rather than worrying about what happened in the past, worry about what you're going to do going forward. Maybe you and/or she need to see a counselor or pastor (if you're religious) to talk about what's next. It doesn't necessarily have to be marriage; but there's a third life at stake and you have to figure out what the best dynamics will be for the two of you and your unborn child.
If you ask her that she may cut you out of the babys life. I was on bc for 3 years and got pregnant my sister on depo on time for 2 years and got precnant it happens sometimes. I would just be happy about the baby because hes always gonna be there you should embrace being a father it is to late to think negatively you have been with her 4 years why not be. shes 29 so it may have been planned. be careful how you hndle it because you may end up paying lots of child support and not being in the kids life execpt every other weekend o and mak sure u get a dna test and check online they have ones u mail in so she won't need to know your doing it
just come out and ask her. i mean you knew the consequences of having unprotected sex yet you did it anyways. she knew the consequences from not taking her birth control on time. so you two need to be adults and work it out because theres another life affected by this.
i was on the pill for 6 years and allergic to latex so couldnt use a condom when i found out i was pregnant my bf thought id done it on purpose so went to the doc to confirm the pregnancy and the doc explained that because i have IBS my pill hadnt worked properly his parents werent very happy and told me to get rid of the baby but at the end of the day its our baby it takes two to tango and we would be the ones with the responsibility i am now glad i didnt listen to his parents and had an abortion as im 25 weeks preggers now and having a girl and we couldnt be more happier think about what u and ure gf want not what others around u want
Sounds like you've have you hands full. I can't say that I'm suprised women her age usually want babies if they haven't had any. There really isn't much option for you now other than be there for the baby. It's unfortunate that she did things the way she did, but it also takes two to tango. If your not prepared to have a baby always wear a condom and if it breaks stop and get another one I always say. Try your best to be there for her and your child and get comfortable with the fact that this woman is going to be apart of your life for the rest of your life, now that you share a child together.
Well, now you've done it.





Get your butt to Leykis 101. The professor may be able to help, but you've screwed up big time.
You play, you pay. Time to take responsibility. She didn't rape you.
you have had a long relationship with her so, just ask her. she may not give you the answer you want to hear. But, you should be able to tell from her reaction if she is telling you the truth. Just for your information I was on the pill when I became pregnant so it just might be that this was something that was not done on purpose.

I Need some advice on when,where and how to kis my girlfriend for the first time?

Im a 12 year old boy and my girlfriend is also 12.We've been going out for about a month now.Were always talkin on the phone and stuff like that and going everywere together.Shes sorda preppy,loving,caring,hyper.She loves when i put my arm around her and she puts her head on my shoulder and cuddle.I need HELP.I Need some advice on when,where and how to kis my girlfriend for the first time?
ok... wen ur cuddling(wow gay word) and your arm is around her tilt her head up by her chin with ur hand, and look into her eyes...then do the 90-10 thing cause she kidna young and mite not wanna kiss u





when ur looking in her eyes, let her move her head to you 90% of the way, then you move the last bit and kiss her. then pull away then it mite happen again. let her decide.I Need some advice on when,where and how to kis my girlfriend for the first time?
just let it happen naturally. it will. dont force anything.
Just go for it. A messed up kiss is better than a planned kiss!
your 12. thats like 6th grade. dude.......at that age you can just ask her if you can kiss her. then go in for the peck.
After you say 'I do' and she says 'I do' then the preacher will tell you to kiss the bride.





Seriously though, romantic kissing is primarily engaged in as a prelude to more physical involvement which leads to intimacy that should be reserved for marriage mates.





Your 12 years old and most people aren't ready for marriage until after teens. And even then the responsiblities are often heavier than young adults can bear.





Don't rush into it. Just be friends. Do things together without the touchy stuff. You'll gain more respect that way. And give it some years to grow. It took me and my wife a good 8 years to really get to know who we are.
her lips sweetie
kinda watch her every now and then


if she is licking/smacking her lips, or you notice that she is using different lipgloss or whatever, then you know she wants the kiss.


if she is just kind of staring at you all quiet, and you feel like the moment is right, then you should go for it.


just like, a lil one on the lips


if it is your first kiss, dont worry about it being 'bad' or anything... it wont be. kissing comes naturaly, trust me, i kissed a boy for the first time before kindergarten! but i didnt make out untill tenth grade! that is actually this year


but dont try to rush it and use tongue too fast, wait untill you are sure she is ready


and dont be afraid to talk to her about you two kissing.
aaaaaaaaaawwwwww %26lt;3 that is SO adorable you don't even KNOW!





damn i didn't have a boyfriend when I was 12!!





um, just see the vibe is..what i noticed is that if you walking next to her and her hand keeps bumping into yours, she wants you to hold her hand. Then if things get heated, *peck* haha
when? somewhere alone, maybe on a date at the beach, movies or something.





how? what feels comfortable. but since it is your first with her, don't go crazy. A small, sweet kiss will do fine. She sounds like the kind of girl who will be really happy if you do... i hope you don't feel too nervous, and GOOD LUCK!!!!





but don't do it if you don't want to. You don't even have to kiss...
Next time you catch each other looking into one another's eyes...


kiss her.
just lean over and straight up do it
Get some balls and just kiss her.

Advice on how to tell my dad i don't want to live with him anymore?

i want to tell my dad i don't want to live with him but i don't know how to do it me and my step mom have been getting into alot of fights lately and it is affecting how i do in school and my sleep and other thing i need help!Advice on how to tell my dad i don't want to live with him anymore?
My guess is that if it's that bad, he may have a clue that you want to leave. Sit down and tell him the truth. It may hurt but he should understand. One thing, before you do this, make sure that you would not be arguing with your mother for the same issues. Make sure that you want to leave because it is issues only with step mom and normal teenage issues that would pop up with any adult including your mother.Advice on how to tell my dad i don't want to live with him anymore?
tell to any old man from your family to do that do not face your dad in future you will need him
It sounds like you are just looking to escape a situation where you aren't perfectly thrilled....and that's not a mature way to behave.Your stepmother is probably not simply causing you problems without any assistance from you.....you need to look HONESTLY at how you treat HER and you'd probably be ashamed of some of that.聽 You may be having issues dealing with your parent's divorce and your father remarrying, in which case you might want to ask your dad if you could see a counselor to help you work it out.





Remember......you cannot run away, and everywhere you go, you take YOU with you.....and YOU isn't perfect, either
Tell him what you told us. Just explain that its hard for you to live with her, but that you can still visit with him.
Running away is not a good life skill.





Address the issue with your step mom and then you can stay where you live and everyone can get along better.





Good luck.
Do you have a job?





Where are you going to live?





Have you applied for emancipation?





Will you still be going to school?





If you think you're ready to say ';dad, I can't live here any more'; you have to be ready to answer these questions realistically or you'll be sent back to your room with your tail between your legs.

Advice on how to make things better...?

I asked my ex to come along with me with some friends to spend some time during the weekends. She says she is not able to pay for the nights. I even invited her boyfriend to come. she reply '; he doesn't care about her and that he doesnt want to go '; and she added ';do you want me to come alone or with my boyfriend?';. ( I met her boyfriend, they're together 6 months) He doesn't like her having ties with me ..and she still does.





Our relationship was the first serious relationship for the both of us and sleeping with one another was the same too. But she ended after 2 years. I am currently single...and still have feelings for her. She says still haven't let me go..





I suggested that she can spend the nights with me. She said okay. i'll be going for a room with 2 beds.... If i'm lucky we get to talk about things to straighten things out with her that what i really want.





I did told her i want to make things work between us and that she have to leave her boyfriend first.Advice on how to make things better...?
Let her relationship run its course before you do that. You might end up driving her further away if you keep pursuing her. You never know what might happen for you in the meantime.Advice on how to make things better...?
If it was meant to be then it was meant to be just enjoy the weekend together and dont force her to make a decision, base on just spending the weekend together. It's going to take just more than that(time). It obvious she still has feeling for you or she wont be spending time with you.

lips

ADVICE ON HOW TO GET INVOLVED!!!!! HELPPPP?

i go to a really small college.


I have a great group of close friends but as for guys, i dont have many of those around.


how do i make more guy friends without being so awkward or weird? be realistic and help me out PLEASE thank youADVICE ON HOW TO GET INVOLVED!!!!! HELPPPP?
I know this is going to sound weird but I used to have trouble talking to guys too, but now I have an alter ego that does the talking for me, my name is jade, my alter egos name is Aubrey. Jade is very simple chic, she's shy and quite plain and boring. Aubrey is over the top and wears a lot of makeup and dresses kind of sexy and is fun and out going! Create yourself an alter ego, give her a fun and sexy name and personality so that it will make it easier for you to go up and approach guys because you feel like you're someone else! Consider itADVICE ON HOW TO GET INVOLVED!!!!! HELPPPP?
I know how you feel and your best bet may be to find something you enjoy doing and do it without your friends. That way you aren't tempted to stick with the same old group as usual and are forced to make new friends.
Broaden your horizons. Friends are great, but you need to do other things that make you happy and enable you to meet new people. Join a club or study group. The college may be small, but you can do other things in the community outside of college.

Advice on how to talk to my dr.

so my psych dr told me i should talk to my family dr and tell her how many tylenol ive been taking. in the last 4 months ive taken close to 300 pills, some of ti was a suicide type thing(just wanting the pain to stop) but the rest is just that im in a llot of pain and i do have some medical conditions that i am currently getting test for and treatment. but i dont know what to tell my dr, im scared what she would do.


any suggestionsAdvice on how to talk to my dr.
You must tell your doctor precisely what you have taken and how many. He/she will understand that all you have been trying to do is get rid of the pain and that it was not a suicide trip. The sooner you see your doctor the sooner your pain will end. Good luck to you. You will be in my prayers.Advice on how to talk to my dr.
Hi, visit doctoryourself.com.





They have allot of information about about diseases that may be caused because of a vitamin deficiency. I hope it helps with your pain.





Check your library for the CD...feel better.





Mike

I need advice on how to talk to my parents about moving away to live with my auntie.?

I'm a 14 year old boy, dual nationality - Lebanese/English. For the last 7 years of my life i've been living in England, not optionally. Despite constant pestering and trying to get my point across to my mother (English) she will not move back to Lebanon. My father (Lebanese) is all go for the idea.





But recently I have been having he thought of my parents just sending me to live in Lebanon to study at school, with my Auntie and grandparents. My whole family is there (quite considerably) and 5 of my 6 auntie's from my dad's side, will constantlybe there to help and assist me, not to mention about 15 of my cousins who are roughly the same age as me. I do not want to take GCSE and would rather take Brevet, the French system. I can speak English, a bit of French and Arabic.





I know for sure that my mother will not say yes straight away. I am scared to ask her, but I need to. Do I have an legal advantges on the subject. I really, really want to go and study in Lebanon like I used to.I need advice on how to talk to my parents about moving away to live with my auntie.?
Explain to your parents that you want to go back to Lebanon. You seem to have though the matter through, so now is the time to explain your plan to them. You can always say that you'd like to try it for a few months to see how it would work out - giving both sides a chance to see the advantages/disadvantages.


Good luck!I need advice on how to talk to my parents about moving away to live with my auntie.?
';Going to study in Lebanon Mum and Dad. OK?';


';Just for a couple of Months';
i can tell you love your family dearly as you are searching for their approval.You just have to be patient and understanding.I have a son of your age who chose to live with his father and although at first i was upset i did understand his need to make his own life experiences no matter how i felt.your mum is just worried about you because she loves you and wants to protect you.Be straight with them but make sure they no how much you still love and need them.
you really need to sit down and talk to your mum and explain how strong you feel about this
explain to your parents why you want to go and how much it would mean to you if they agreed you could go maybe they'll both decide it's best to let you go i would be more willing to sit down and seriously listen to the reasons if my children acted adult enough and was really serious about it


good luck
go and talk to your mother about it,she may say no at first,just because she doesnt want you to go,explain how you feel and its what you really want to do,she should be proud that you want to learn this way,i wish you all the luck in the world xx

I'm 27, 4 11' and look 16. How do I look older. I have really long hair and don't care to cut it. any advice?

I sell new homes and it helps when people take me seriously. I'm sick of being treated like I'm 16I'm 27, 4 11' and look 16. How do I look older. I have really long hair and don't care to cut it. any advice?
You should be wearing clothes that are age-appropriate. No shopping in the juniors section just because you fit. You should shop in the women's petite section. Wear nice tailored jeans or dress pants, fitted blazers, nice button-down shirts or blouses.





And I know you don't want to cut your hair, but alot of times long hair makes you look alot younger. A shorter haircut will automatically look more like your age. Maybe at least get a new cut (layers?) but keep the length.





And age-appropriate shoes would help. Wear heels to work, not clunky teenager shoes.





I don't know how you dress...you might already dress like this, but that's the advice I have for looking older.I'm 27, 4 11' and look 16. How do I look older. I have really long hair and don't care to cut it. any advice?
you should wear more revealing clothes than what a 16 year old would wear, try to act older and more mature, wear new clothes, go shopping often, u should wear more make up


it also good that u look young


ur 27 and look 16 thats great!!


u should keep looking young
Kind of hard to answer the question without a pic. Do you dress like a 16 year old? do you have a hair cut that looks like a 16 year old? Do you wear makeup? Jewelry? There are a number of ways to look older.
a hairstyle is everything





but shop in petites, not juniors too
so you do mind cutting it or not?...


shorter hair makes people look older most of the time.

I need advice on how to lose this fat?

im 16 almost 17year old guy and im 158,work out and i like to bmx.


but i got a fat on my chest and on the lower part of my stumic and my thyghs and i want to know what a good dies is and a good exersing tecknex is to lose this without runing alot becaus i got a serously bad foot pla and thanksI need advice on how to lose this fat?
can't lost fat in a specific area,

How to get physically fit for the Marines, I'm in good shape, but smoke, I need advice. I am 18 years old.

Did 4 years of Marine time but with the Navy. (the marines need navy medics) You need to drop the smoking. Decreased lung capacity isn't cool. You have to run 3 miles in 10 minutes. (that's a good time to set as a goal) You have to do 3 dead-hang pull ups (minimum) and as for sit ups and push ups, check: http://www.marines.com/page/usmc.jsp?fla鈥?/a> Good luck.How to get physically fit for the Marines, I'm in good shape, but smoke, I need advice. I am 18 years old.
Your first run in boot camp will be 1 mile then 3 miles shortly there after then there is the survival course. If you can't even run a 10 minute mile, you're f*ck and better off joining the Air Force or Army.How to get physically fit for the Marines, I'm in good shape, but smoke, I need advice. I am 18 years old.
Quit smoking! Im a smoker, but if i were a future marine, this is the first thing i would do!





Then basic calesthenics like jogging, push up, crunches. And talk to your recruiter!





Thanks for signing up, and good luck to ya!
obvious stop smoking, because in the marines they will work ur butt off!
They can give you excellent advice at the recruiter's office. Also, running can do wonders. Good luck.
Stop smoking. Your lung capacity and endurance will triple.
The Marines require very good physical condition, so you should probably start a new exercise routine which includes lots of running and pushups. Also, your life in the corps will be a lot easier (healthwise) if you can quit smoking before boot camp.
u should probably stop smoking and start running and working out and things like that.
Smoking reduces your body's ability to get oxygen to the brain and skin, so maybe you should quit. Running and taking cardio classes would help your heart become stronger. Lift weights.

lips

Pls give advice on how to move on from this?

this is for my friend.He loevd his girlfriend so much and they were always so sweet to each other.They often refer to themselves as soulmates.Las month the unthinkable happened,she died in a car accident.He became depressed and his life is spinning out of control.Ive tried comforting him but it still wont work.He is melancholic and acts as if its like the end of the world for him.What do else do you think I shoul ddo as a concerned friend to help him?





p.s at times he doesnt talk to me as if he's in his own world.he lost his personality and is having a whole lot of a hard time moving onPls give advice on how to move on from this?
I don't think that his girlfriend would want him to live his life this way. You should tell him that. Make sure he knows that you are always there for him, should he need anything. Then give him his space.





P.S.


If you think he's suicidal, make sure that he seeks professional help. If necessary, do it with him.Pls give advice on how to move on from this?
please talk to him maybe u can get a counselor for him and you can go with him please let his family know what is going on with him i really need help too i think about committee suicide to because of going through a breakup
He needs to seek professional counselling. Its great that you are supportive to your friend and please keep that up.. the loss of a loved one is very hard on a person. Just always be an ear for him to listen. I find that men have more trouble opening up then women.. but he needs to speak to a professional and quick to help ease the pain.





It won't be quick but at least its a start
Time will heal.....give him his space....and make sure he is seeking professional help.
Tell him that his gf wouldn't like he becoming so depressed and sad. Try to meet him beautiful girls.
that is so awful.


i'm so sorry your friend has to deal with this!


just give him a little time, he obviously loved her.


don't try to push him, he needs to recover by himself.





how would you react in this situation?


i would probably act in a similar way as your friend.





i understand that you want him to be himself again, but it's hard for him right now. eventually he'll move on, you just have to wait.
That is sooo tragic! I feel so bad. Um... basically I recommend him going to a psychiatrist. They can help him with something like this. If he becomes more depressed, he might commit suicide or something. You need to take action now before he does something stupid. I had a friend that was exactly the same way, so I should know.
Well, it has only been a month so it is going to take a long time for him to be himself again. The best you can do is just be there in case he needs a shoulder to cry on or just someone to talk to. Losing someone is the most painful thing you can go through. Give him time.
He needs therapy. Having a supportive friend like you isn't enough to help him through this. Continue being a good friend but, try to get him to start seeing a proffessional. They're trained specifically for situations like this.





Good luck and I'm sorry about your friend's situation.
Suggest he go to a counselor to work through his grief. There are often free counselors who can help him learn to grieve in a positive way while reaffirming his committment to life. Be there for him. Even if he doesn't talk to you, your presence is still helpful. Let him grieve in his own way, even if it is not the way you would grieve. Bring food over to his house (he's probably not cooking), take him out to see a movie, anything low key is good. But definitely look for a resource in your area so he can get counseling.

I need advice on how to deal with a control freak.?

The entire time we were married and thru the divorce he did whatever he could to control situations. Mostly using the kids against me (not letting me see them etc.) Now the divorce is final but he still tries to control everything. We have shared parenting so we have the kids equal amount of time etc. But he will tell the kids things like no your mom isnt allowed to go take you to get your haircut....He has a new live in girlfriend (she was there like the day after the divorce was final) so I wish he would just leave me alone and worry about her. But I really need to know how to address things that he says to the kids about what I ';cant do'; and just get him to lighten up towards me. He really doesnt have to be nasty to me everytime he speaks to me does he?I need advice on how to deal with a control freak.?
Your ex sounds like my ex. When he would try to control what I did with the kids, I did what I wanted when I wanted because they are MY KIDS! We have shared custody also, and if he said I couldn't do something, I did it anyway. He can try to control you all he wants, but the bottom line is YOU ARE DIVORCED. He is no longer your husband, and therefore HAS NO CONTROL over you or your life! Don't know about your ex, but all I have to tell mine is to take me to court, and we will let a judge decide. Shuts him right up.I need advice on how to deal with a control freak.?
Control freaks have control only over what we allow them to control about us.





I'm a control freak of sorts, but I'd like to say I'm healthy (ok, relatively) about it. For example, I change my own oil, do most of my car repairs, etc.





But I don't try to tell others what to do. My control comes from setting boundaries. I will control what 'I' do, not what others do.





If your ex-husband tries to tell you what to do, how to feel, etc (my ex-wife was good at telling me what I should feel, etc) you simply let them know that they are free to live that out in their life, but as for me, I'm going to make my own choices about what to feed the kids, when I can take the kids for a haircut, etc.





Control is really an illusion. Control freaks often feel out of control in their own lives, so they try to control others.





Everybody seeks control, the question is, do they seek to control themselves or others. I suggest (as I can't tell you without sounding controlling) that you simply control your reactions and do not give him control.





He can't control you unless you let him.





Check out Patricia Evans, Controlling People at your local library or bookstore.
He's going to say what he's going to say. More power to him. Ignore him and be there for your kids. Don't bad mouth him to your kids, they're catch on eventually as to what an *** they have for a father.
Sorry for your situation and I'm even more sorry for your kids in this situation. In a divorce the kids often get the worst of it. In this instance I would say the best thing you can do is comunicate with your kids. Spend a lot of extra time just talking to them and listening to them. Kids are not dumb so they will figure things out eventually. Be straight forward and honest with them and as much as possible don't be mad at their or put him down in front of them. You have to build trust with your kids through your actions and everything should turn out fine. If you have problems that continue with the ex's behaviour tword you then you may need to see a lawyer about changing the custody situation to help eliminate interaction with him.
A control freak. Ok so Im not claiming to know the absolute answer to this question but maybe I can make some suggestions that will help.... Try changing your reactions to him and the way you approach him. First of all repeat his offensive words back to him, like if he says ';your arent allowed to feed the kids steak'; say ';so Im not allowed to feed the kids steak? What do you want me to feed them?'; this lets him hear himself and could shake his resolve. say his response is ';you should feed them cheese instead'; then you would continue the playback ';so I should feed them cheese?'; In doing this you are building rapport with him (believe it or not) and letting him know that you are hearing him. opening the door for him to allow your opinion to be heard. If you can remain calm and not allow his bullying to shake you, you may be able to break down the wall he is putting between the two of you and make things easier for you. congratulations on your divorce and good luck to you.
I have dealt with many control freaks in my day. First, don't ever react to what he says or does, thats what they feed on. If he gets the result he doesn't want to get directly from his controlling behavior he will quit doing it. If he tells the kids that you can't do something, the first thing I would do is make it a point to do that before he gets them next.

I need advice on how to get our uncle to leave our house?!?

ok so I have my uncle living with us he's not the greatest person he eats all our food drinks all our pop and etc. and he brings up like 50 dishes a night serious. uses the last of everything and wanders around our house and we keep noticing things missing like our digital camera and video games etc. but his son comes sometimes too but he leaves like 3 days before rent is due so he never pays but he's not allowed here anymore and my uncle he only pays 500 a month and thats for the room all our furniture and our food and toilet paper and everything and were sick of him were already a big family we cant deal with it so what can we do!! we need him to leave but my mom wont do it and my dad likes him even though he compains how do we get him to leave for ever. cause last time he lived with us we had to move to get rid of him and he's back again!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!I need advice on how to get our uncle to leave our house?!?
Hey, not your house, not your rules. I'm sorry but it sounds like the parents have the say here, not the kids. Someday you will have your own house and be able to make your own rules, however, right now your parents are being understanding and compassinate people who are there for your uncle. Perhaps there is more to the story than you know. I know it's intrussive to you (at your age, most things are), but learn some patience and understanding and perhaps you can enjoy your uncle for whom he really is.I need advice on how to get our uncle to leave our house?!?
tel him straightfarwardly %26amp; be apart from him %26amp; his family.
If you're living under your mom and dad's roof then you will have to abide by their wishes. Sounds like they want your uncle to stay with you. Or they really need the $500 a month.


Try to be active in more stuff at school so you don't have to be at home so much.


Good luck!
Well if its your parents house and they don't want him to move i doubt he will, as far as him getting into things put stuff that you buy in your room and lock your door so he can't get into it, he is paying rent also but you need to also tell him he has to chip in on the grocery bill.
if he cant afford a place of his own go out and find him an apartment that has all utilities included like a bachlors apt or something for around 300 or 350 that way if he can afford 500 a mounth to pay you he can afford 300 for rent plus buy his own food you can always help with furniture and stuff if you can talk to your parents about that tell them how you feel
Be honest, or it will come back to haunt you all.
Watch home alone for ideas..................





or


get an occupation order from civil court or restraining order served on him
tell your mom he is harazzing you or doing nasty thing or something i pretty sure ur dad will belive you and kick ur uncless butt and leave him on the streets. but if u dont want to get that dramatic just talk to your uncle and ask him if he plans to stay more or ask ur mom why is he staying so long there and tell her that you feel uncomtrouble around him or something

I need advice on how to make that person believe and trust me again?

My exgirlfriend broke up with me because some friend of hers came up to her and told her that I was cheating on her and I wasn't. It's been a long time and I have been trying to convince her for almost half a year ,and I love her so much, I need advice and she is still my first love and don't know what to do.I need advice on how to make that person believe and trust me again?
Baby, if you're telling her the truth and she's going to trust her friend over you and it's been that long, see if she believes you when you tell her that you think it's best that you move on because you can't build a relationship with someone who doesn't trust you.I need advice on how to make that person believe and trust me again?
first loves are probably the hardest to get over, but maybe it is time to move on.
It seems to me if the story is as you tell it - that your ex was very quick not to believe you !!





Either she had other reasons - did you lie previously? Most people will forgive and foget some lies if you fess up but then the onus is on you to prove that you have changed and that takes a lot of time and effort.





or it was simply convenient for her in that she wanted out of the relationship dude and this in her mind gave her an excuse she was lookig for ?





if its the latter man move on there is no chance

I need advice on how to convince :D (photo included)?

my mum wont let me get my lip peirced, but i really really really want it done =[[[[[





does anyone know how i can convince my mum, i told her that as soon as i turn 18 i'm getting it done, so she may as well let me get it done now, but she didn't care.





also do you think i will suit one?





http://i230.photobucket.com/albums/ee76/Queen_Loser/015.jpgI need advice on how to convince :D (photo included)?
Hi,


I can see you have your nose pierced, so I would say that ';Mum, look at it this way, I would like to get it done with your permission, and if it looks odd, I can always take it out, and it will heal';, I'm being honest with you, as other kids my age actually get it done by their friends and I want to get it done professionally not some back yard job.





I would recommend that you get it on the opp side than the nose pierce, and have it done on the lip line in the corner, a nice zircon gold. That is what I would say, and I am a Professional body piercer and have performed over 3,500 piercings.





So good luck, and if your mum agrees, only cleanse with luke warm salt water. NO HARSH CHEMICALS.......I need advice on how to convince :D (photo included)?
I think it'd suit you. As far as your mom goes you might as well just wait til your 18 because on stuff like that its very difficult to change their minds when they say no. I guess you could try to work out some kind of deal like do something around the house or offer some kind of goal for school since i figure since your under 18 your still in school this upcoming year with allowing you to get the piercing done being the reward if you do it.
Well she must have let you have your nose done, how did you convince her to let you have that done? Do it the same if you can remember with the lip, or just keep asking %26amp; asking overr and over again until she gets fed up and gives in haha :)





Also yeah I really think you'd suit


one! Your nose piercing looks mint on youuu, and so will the lip when you get it done soon hopefully [-;





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I was in the exact same situation with a body piercing that I wanted but in the end I just got it done and kept it a secret..





To be honest I don't think it will suit you yet.. you still have a very young face so I think you should wait until your a bit older.
Wait until you are old enough to get it done safely by a proffessional, I'm a mum of a 16yr old and she had it done as soon as she turned 16. While I do not like it, a tattoo would be a whole lot worse.
I think it would suit you but how old are you? Your mom is probably trying to hold on to her little girl! Let her have another few years because very soon you'll be able to do whatever you want to!
i had same problems with my parents just get it done.. they'll get it over it eventually.. it'll look hot on you





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yah i u could suit one. but be careful. my friend got one done and her lip got infected rlly bad. make sure u rlly want it. she said it hurts.
yeah, i guess it would suit you, you could pull it off!





good luck xoxo
she let you get your nose done, whats the issue?
wont suit u
u look nothing like your avatar!!!





but yea just get it it will fit u.

I feel disconnected from people, any advice on how to connect more?

People see me as more of a shy person. I don't have much to say. I feel like I have nothing to talk about with people so I feel a bit awkward. I am happy in my life, I just don't live an exciting life, so I don't have much to share. Any advice on how to open up more, or how to connect more with people?





My b/f is one of the few people who ';gets'; me. We chat, and he makes me laugh all the time. Not sure how to get a similar relationship with co-workers and new people I meet.I feel disconnected from people, any advice on how to connect more?
Tips to get connected with others.





1. Take interest in others, ask question they are interested in.


2. Talk about their carrier and success.


3. Don't talk much about you especially don't speak much about your success.


4. Praise others. Even God like praise.


5. Don't wait for others to start talk. Always start talking with others.


6. Don't talk much about your b/f with your other friends.


7. Always try to convey to others that they are somewhat different from others.I feel disconnected from people, any advice on how to connect more?
1.) Warm smile, like seeing an old friend.


2.) Spend no more then 30 sec - 1 min on small talk like the weather.


3.) notice something about thema and ask how they got it.


4.) relate 3.) with your own story or spread out into a broader subject.


5.) add jokes inbetween and eliminate all nervous mannerisms like nervous laughter and hands to face.





6.) at a high point, like after you both laugh at a joke, introduce yourself





ciao
I have the same problem sometimes. Maybe you could talk about the weather, the news, or movies.
always just be yourself .. try starting a convo next time you want to meet someone new just talk about your interest or hobby .. and if there not into it then there not for you ..
It starts with your interest in them and what they have to say.


After I started taking SRI's, my interest in people around me went way up, and hence my interaction with them. I should say that I did have an anxiety/depression problem, and that is why I started taking the SRI in the first place.

lips

Gay guys: any advice on how to get a guy for a girl?

whats the best strategy to get a boyfriend for a girl?Gay guys: any advice on how to get a guy for a girl?
Look for a guy who's obviously shy and that you find attractive.


All you have to do is 1) GENTLY break down his barriers, and 2) talk to him in a way that lets him know you're interested- and mean it. If you're even halfway good-looking and/or have a decent personality, he'll fall like a stone.


Do not make the assumption that a person like this isn't worth knowing. Just like everyone else, you don't know until you know 'em.Gay guys: any advice on how to get a guy for a girl?
why don't you be her boyfriend?
flash them
look for one!

My cousin needs advice on how to ask this girl out?

he's 11 (turning 12), he's on his way to 7th grade. He really liked this girl, he always mention her name everytime we talk. He told me that the girl is smart pretty and nice, so is my cuz. But he's really shy to asked her out.What should he tell her?My cousin needs advice on how to ask this girl out?
he should just be straight up with her and be like i like you as more than a friend...wil you go out with mee.


it might be easier if he has her screen name or something and does it over the computer rather than in personMy cousin needs advice on how to ask this girl out?
Is this cousin YOU by any chance?
Tell him to just ask her out!!!!!! If she says no then just walk away and say thank you!!!!

I'M OF OUT TONIGHT!! any good advice on how to pull?

I wanna try some new pulling techniques as i think mine may need renewing anyone got any good advice?I'M OF OUT TONIGHT!! any good advice on how to pull?
'; I'm of out tonite'; What in the world does that mean?I'M OF OUT TONIGHT!! any good advice on how to pull?
Pulling what...don't understand. Maybe I'm too old.
Smile a LOT!!!!!
WHAT?!
if by pulling u mean getting a bf just be nice
no your not too old i dont understand it either. what the heck? k nevamind i don't want to know...
ya what the hec does that mean. add som details
Just look in my direction long enough





make eye contact as if you really mean it





and I am yours





xxx
uhhhh.....are you talking about sex hear?
... que?
love i think you should edit ur question no one gets it lol i do though.


just be extremely flirty!

I am 23 .. very petite.. i need advice on how to look matured .. make up and wardrobe wise. or watever way!!?

its sad some people even think i am 16 17.. yup .. looking young can be a problem to some!I am 23 .. very petite.. i need advice on how to look matured .. make up and wardrobe wise. or watever way!!?
H %26amp; M


http://www.hm.com/us/#/fashion9/





Steve and Barry's


http://www.steveandbarrys.com/





Check the internet for other trendy and up to date clothing websites.





Consider getting a make over from a make up artist at a cosmetics counter.





Select pics of hairstyles that you love and take them to your hair dresser.





And be yourself!





~Miss Makeover~


http://www.TheMakeoverWebsite.comI am 23 .. very petite.. i need advice on how to look matured .. make up and wardrobe wise. or watever way!!?
Wear LOTS of makeup, especially eyeliner to the point that u could easily Jane Goodall a family of raccoons, use hot pink lipstick, bright green eyeshadow, wear LOTS of polyester and old lady clothes, SMOKE ALOT, talk about menopause and wear bifocal granny like glasses and dye ur hair grey and walk with a hunch and that should do it!
show us some pics
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wear more brownies and charles n' keith high heels and put ur hair up and wear this really bronzy soft skin makeup. NOW THAT WOULD DO IT. I guarentee
I would say attitude and speech..





Just buy more sophisticated clothing.
go here http://www.reinventyourself.webs.com

Anybody got any advice on how to go up to a girl that you dont know and juss talk to ?

what should i say when i wanna go up to a girl that i dont know and juss talk to herAnybody got any advice on how to go up to a girl that you dont know and juss talk to ?
Just do it, ask her for directions, or the time of day. If you are wearing a watch, say you think it's off or something.


Say, ';do I know you, you look familiar?';


Anything will start a conversation. If you are working or in school together, that makes it easier.


But if you are total strangers, just smile and ask some simple question, and go from there.Anybody got any advice on how to go up to a girl that you dont know and juss talk to ?
if you really want to talk to her then just plan it.


pretend to accidently run into her and then take it from there


ask wot her name is


ask her different q's but not too personal


strike up a conversation with her like you would to a best friend


ok?
just bump into her at skatin on ';accident'; and just become friends wit her then find out the personal stuff like does she have a b/f and how old she is and just things like that well good luck peace

I need some advice about how to get my best friend to e-mail me back?

Say you are sorry and If he would please reconsider dumping you.


As his best friend he should have a soft spot for you.


Send him a puppy dog photo.

lips

Hi there i am 12 stone and i need to lose at least 5 stone witin 6 mouths got any advice on how to do this?

you want to get down to 7stone ? that's not a healthy weightHi there i am 12 stone and i need to lose at least 5 stone witin 6 mouths got any advice on how to do this?
Try cutting off your legs and maybe your arms too. That shouldn't take much more than a day.

Advice, tips,dos and donts,etc on how to keep guy of my dreams for boyfriend! dont want to ruin it!?

hey my crush asked me out and i said yes1 give me advice tips dos and donts! first boyfriend! my 15 and in 9th grade!


peace thanks


sarahAdvice, tips,dos and donts,etc on how to keep guy of my dreams for boyfriend! dont want to ruin it!?
a lot of this is about how you guys interact... but in general dont be too clingy. give him space but also let him always know that you are interested in him.Advice, tips,dos and donts,etc on how to keep guy of my dreams for boyfriend! dont want to ruin it!?
Just be your self. Totally just your self, its who he asked out so just have fun, the only person he will like is u, not anyone people tell u to be.


or what i like to do is read up a character piece on there star signs,it reali helps to find out things he likes or hates.
Dear Sarah:





This is So GRAND!


You must be so very happy %26amp; excited.





Do's:


Just have FUN, Sarah!


Be your genuine good self!


Many boys like to talk about sports!


Ask him what movies %26amp; music he likes.


Talk about family %26amp; school too.


Be a good listener.


Dress sharp %26amp; rather conservative.


Be positive %26amp; supportive.


(He may be a little shy %26amp; nervous.)





Don'ts:


YOU~Try NOT to be too nervous.


Just breathe %26amp; stay relaxed.


(sometimes easier said then done. :-)


Try not to dominate the conversation


too much. Don't seem too ';needy';.





Enjoy your time together!


Go get um Tigeress!





Good Luck girl!

Hey, i needs advice on how to control sex... HELP!! Please!! Please!!?

I 18 years young boy and it started like that. Everytime when my gf came over to my house i will sure ask her for sex non-matter she agree or not, but i really love her alot. l just can't control it but she understand. I tried to shake my P everday to remove the liquid out but no matter what went she came i will still ask for it. How, what can i do to control it? help!!!! .....Hey, i needs advice on how to control sex... HELP!! Please!! Please!!?
Maybe you should go to the doctor and ask him/her. As awkward as it may seem to do something like that, it isn't unheard of and the dr will probably have some information that can help you.Hey, i needs advice on how to control sex... HELP!! Please!! Please!!?
Hey man i think u r a sex addict... seriously im not having a go at u.


sum ppl get addicted to it lyk drugs, u shuld visit a doctor they might b able to tell u more about it and what can be dun bout it.

What's the best advice you have ever gotten about how to search for a new job?

Do what you love, and the money will follow.





It may not follow immediately, but it DOES follow. Very nicely, too.





Good luck!What's the best advice you have ever gotten about how to search for a new job?
send resumes to every company not only the ones looking for help in the paper





find company's that do have your job ie welder,machine operator





and send them your paperwork


also think outside the box


if you sit at a desk and file type answer phones etc etc





remember even a factory has a phone and paperwork


they need you tooWhat's the best advice you have ever gotten about how to search for a new job?
Networking. Never be afraid to talk to people about what you are looking for and asking them about what they are doing. Even when you think they might not directly be able to help you, if you present yourself well, they might know someone who can and be willing to connect you. Be patient. Networking takes time to build relationships. Keep in touch but don麓t be a pest. Just an occassional hello, so that you remain a fresh face. Keep business cards and write where and when you met and what you spoke of as a reminder. You never know when you will need it. Good luck!
Early in the day. Thats when its more likely the manager himself will be there and you could talk to him directly. Go alone. Ive seen too many kids looking for jobs with buddies, as if they need help or handholding. Not a good first impression. Dress neatly, but not overdress. Have good manners and look directly in the eyes. Wait a few days then call back or go back in to check on the status of your app. This shows real interest in the job.


Good luck.
Put your resume on CareerBuilder or Monster. Make sure your resume is easy to read because recruiters can be picky. Most companies don't allow you to apply in person so your resume is your first impression - make it a good one.





Best wishes
The first law of wing walking says: ';Don't let go with one hand until you have a hold of something else with the other hand.'; In the case of a job don't leave the old one before you have a new one. It's better to walk into an interview with the attitude of I really don't have to get this job.
Free money honey!! Ive found what u have been looking for. surfing the web for free these days? Not me. I've made good money doing what u r doing right now. It's free to join and starts to work for u instantly. I love it. 5 hours a month is all the surfing u are required to do- i surf like 500 fun and free, my two favorite words!!

Neighbor's marital problems... how to give advice

I've always felt at peace to give advice or offer to help but yesterday I found myself confused and didn't know what to tell my neighbor.





She's orthodox and he's a non-practicing catholic so I'm obviously not as aware about their teachings or practices as far as religion goes. They're in their late 20s. They have a 2year old and have been married for 3years. He drinks obsessively and is out till 3am usually with his ';friends'; and drives home in that state.





He's rude, swears, and throws things at her and their son has begun learning temperaments and throwing things. He's constantly insulting her and says marriage is just a piece of paper. All this seems to have gotten worse when the baby was born.





I'm not an advocate for divorce at all but I do believe that marriage is about mutual love, respect and understanding and obviously a level of compatibility and priorities. I really didn't know what to suggest or how to help other than convince her to have a serious and proper talk with him, but I'm afraid even that would be hurtful to her.





What would you suggest to someone like this? She's a sweetheart and her son is just precious.





Wasalam.Neighbor's marital problems... how to give advice
In a situation like this I would talk to her alone and simply start asking her some questions . The questions being .....


#1 are you happy ?


#2 do you like the way he is treating you and acting around your son ?


#3 do you think you and your son deserve to live like this ?


#4 do you think that your son should grow up in this type of environment ?


#5 what will happen if one day he throws something and it hits your son and hurts him ? Or worse yet , what if one day he goes from throwing things to beating the hell out of you and your son .


#6 what do you think will happen if he ends up killing you one day ?


what will happen to your son then ?


Let her know that she is not alone . That there is a lot of help out there for women that are in abusive situations .


I commend you for wanting to help her and her son out . Most people wouldn't .


I do recommend that you be very careful though . It is possible that if you get too involved it could all back fire on you .


Meaning that you help her out then mysteriously her and her husband start getting along great then you become the nosy neighbor .


In a domestic situation you are always treading on thin ice .


That is why I suggested the questions . You are not directly giving her advice , you are setting the scene and making her think . And if she thinks about it then maybe she can come to the conclusion that she needs to come to . And that is to get her and her son out of there .


After asking her each question ask her to pay close attention to the answers that she says . This will allow herself to actually hear the words come straight out of her mouth and know that she has to do some thing .


Good luck and best wishes to the both of you .


Neighbor's marital problems... how to give advice
Just be there for her and remain supportive. She will address the situation when she is ready. I've found that people in situations like this often just need someone who is willing to listen. All the advice in the world will not make a difference until she reaches ';rock bottom'; in her marriage. When she gets to that point, she will act.
You can NOT fix other people. You can let her know you will be there to help her if she ever needs something. That might be what she needs to get stronger. But you might just have to wait for it to play out and then... be there for her.
here is my advice. never give advice
This is a classic domestic abuse situation. You can't do anything because she isn't going to leave. She will just keep telling you about all the horrors and then go back to it. In fact, if you give her any advice, she will tell her husband that it came from you.Then he'll target you as well. So I suggest that you avoid any conversations where she talks about her home life. You can't help this situation and could even make it worse.
you're right. marriage is about mutual respect. only issue here, is that the respect is not mutual. he is treating her like crap. she needs to have a talk with him and put her foot down about this abuse and his blatant alcholism. however, she is gonna do it when she is ready to do so. you can talk/support/etc. until the cows come home, but if she won't become empowered enough to take action, it won't matter, and you will be having the same discussions with her for the next 5 years.





another question is, why are you so involved in this? i understand that you want to help a friend, but you are tettering on a slippery slope towards codependence. the first line of your letter speaks volumes. be very careful about having the ';caretaker'; personality type. i speak on this from very personal experience. you will caretake others until it hurts. the only problem is that the only one not being taken care of here, is you, and your emotional happiness...which is being artificially boosted by ';helping'; others. remember, the biggest help that you can give someone is the ability to help themselves.

Why do I still care? Any advice on how to get over someone?

We lived together for 7 years and he left me to live with another woman for the last 3 months. This is not the first time he has cheated but he says ';he has changed'; should I believe that? Can people like that change? He calls me everyday and leaves voicemails telling me how much he loves me but when I ask him what he is up to he says it is none of my business if I dont want to be his girlfriend any more. Then he cusses at me and and tells me he doesn't want me back then calls back and tells me how much he loves me. What is his deal?? How do I get past this and stop taking his calls?Why do I still care? Any advice on how to get over someone?
What you are describing is a cycle. Don't believe he's changed. If you were together 7 years and he cheated on you in the past, and just 3 months ago left you for someone else and is now calling you, he hasn't changed. He is merely being manipulative and playing headgames with you to get whatever it is he wants from you. Change your number and respect yourself enough to let go and not call him or in any way participate in this game with him. To continue this way will make you crazy and keep you from healing.Why do I still care? Any advice on how to get over someone?
don't believe his lies, drop this cheater.
Make yourself unavailable when he calls by having a new relationship.
WOW. That like sux. I think that honestly guys like to cheat. Take him back for a month and see what happens but this time.. dont let the dogg off the leash. Obviously you wernt watching him. Call him and say :





Do u want 2 git bak 2gether or not? decide right now.





He will tell you the truth if he has any balls like at all. You gotta realize its hard 2 stay with one person 7 years and not like anybody else.. Hell, one year is hard enough. lol





well uhm





good luck!





and email me and tell me what happened. =]
im sorry about that! but my advice is to eat chocolate and whach a sad movie!!!!!!! stop talking to him or you wont get over him...
Well, it all depends. A guy that is like that doesn't sound like a person that 'changes'. And even if he does, doesn't sound like he'd be the kind to change that fast. By answering and taking his phone calls you're showing him in a way that you're kind of still there and that's why he hasn't felt the real pain of not having you at all. But if you let go completely and with actions let him know you're not interested (which is really hard to do =/ ) he's gonna feel the difference of not having you with him. As to if he will change, that's up to you to believe. If he cusses at you, obviously he's not showing any respect. Would YOU cuss at someone and disrespect them if you wanted them back with you? I know I wouldn't. So he's obviously not focusing on getting you back. He just want a little taste of two desserts but you gotta show him that if he wants to be with you he has to drop any other affair.
Wow he sounds just like my ex.


First you have to know that it is never easy to get over someone that your truely cared about. As long as you know that then you will not beat yourself up as much when you think about him. When I broke up with my ex I found that getting out of my house and staying busy for myself helped a lot. Try working out and going to the gym. It will take your mind off of things and help your body too. Whatever you do don't drink your problems away, and don't just sit on the couch and watch chick flicks...they will just make you more upset then you need to me.


Good luck!

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