Does this sound like good ';spiritual '; advice on how to ';gently'; break-up with someone?

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Dear Not in Love,


Being a ';gentle'; person myself, which is sometimes good and sometimes bad, I can appreciate your wish to end your relationship gently. You are probably already good at being gentle. Your challenge might be to prepare yourself for the not-so-gentle work you have to do. Here are some rules for you:


1. Don't forget that ending is not a nice thing. Own up to the shadow aspects of this important job. Be prepared to be the ';bad guy'; and discover that there can be joy in that role.


2. Before you have the ending conversation, get it clear in your mind. You want and need to end this now.


“Set aside complexity for a while and go for simple”


Set aside complexity for a while and go for simple.


3. You don't have to give reasons. You know that the reason is that you don't love this person now. Don't be led into the tangle and trap of looking for valid reasons. Love is not a reasonable thing.


4. Be gentle, but also be firm and clear. You can be one part firm to two parts gentleDoes this sound like good ';spiritual '; advice on how to ';gently'; break-up with someone?
sounds like good advise. also dont split up with a totally in love woman right after you have sex and kick her out of your house......makes them crxxxpyDoes this sound like good ';spiritual '; advice on how to ';gently'; break-up with someone?
Sounds fine!
I seriously hope it is a joke.


Can only agree with the being clear bit in point 4.





Those ^$@*%26amp;=(+ therapists.. could it be a sneaky way they came up with to get more troubled ppl to their practices?!
I think it sounds perfect. The dumpee always wants to know ';why'; from the dumper. This takes that pressure off. Apparently you don't seem to care if you hurt someone. You don't have to annihilate someones feelings just because you don't want to be with them!
Personally, I know that breaking up with someone is really hard, specially when you been through a lot of good moments with that person. You know that you don't want to hurt him and that you just want to be clear and end things, but no matter what it should be said and done. As for the advice well I don't think is a really good one.
Just breaking up in your own way is good enough.





Don't need rules just need to think about your future.
Another example of why pyschology and humanistic theories are voodoo science....