I need advice on how to break up with my boyfriend of three years.?

He is my best friend, but I don't want to be in a relationship with him. I also am interested in someone else who I have had sex with. I need a way to break up with him that isn't too harsh, and without telling him I cheated on him. HELP...I need advice on how to break up with my boyfriend of three years.?
Well honesty is the best way. But sounds like you you want to feel less guilty for your mistake. He will probably find out either way so it might as well come from you!I need advice on how to break up with my boyfriend of three years.?
Be honest with him and tell him that you love him but are not in love with him anymore. People can love someone and care about them but not want to be in that relationship. Just tell him that you want to experience new things before settling down with someone, and its better to do it now then wait. If you stay in the relationship, I can promise you that you will end up hating him. Don't settle if your not ready to. But I would be completely honest with him, either way its gonna hurt him, so you might as well tell him the entire truth, even about the cheating. You should have been women enough to leave him before you cheated. You would not like it if he cheated on you.





P.S I absolutely hate people that cheat.
sewwtheart i was with my kids father for 8 years it will be alright and u will make it.just tell him your not happy and u need to move thats the best u can do. they longer u wait the worst its gonna be.
oh its really tuff i mean i know exactly your posisin i dont want you to be sad or any thing because i dont want you to be but after i broke with my boy friend who was my best friend for years and turned to boy friend and girl friend and i wanted to break up with him we didnt stay longer friend we stopped talking to easch other started to avoid each other and its making me so sad and you know what a part of my heart want him back but i dont know how so really if you think you really should break up with him do it but if you are not sure i mean take it from me you will be in a big pain and thank you.
The best thing that can happen to him is getting rid of you. Your no real friend to him. How long before you cheat on this ';new'; guy?
I HATE CHEATER.... IF UR A GOOD FRIEND YOU WOULD TELL HIM... BUT IT SEEMS LIKE YOUR A BAD FRIEND AND A WROST GIRLFRIEND...
shooting him is 1 option
Tell him that you've been together for so long, and you don't really feel like you did to begin with. Say you need a break, you might just be tempted by this other guy but once you've been with him you'll miss the old one. Say you think you should see other people. If you stay with him, you'll only be hurting him more. He doesn't need to know about the other guy... what you do is your business and no one else's
maybe find a job in another city with the excuse that you have to move there
Oh...so NOW you are concerned with his feelings.





Just let him know that your feelings for him are gone and you need to go your seperate way. Do him a favor and dont tell him that ';we can still be friends';.
tell him you are gay.
number one you should had told him in the frist place you want to be friend with him this man sound like he really love you and to do that to him that would hurt him deeply how would you like it if some one you truly love did you like that. ti's not a good ideal to play with people heart that could be very danger this man might cry are hurt his self, because you lead him on how could you do that you no in your heart that is not right . not you want this man to be your friend you might not find Mr right some time you see another person you want to share your self with the gross might be as green on the other side like you think it is. and if this person you have in mind do you/ like you want to do your lover, just tell your self whats gose around comes around
Tell him that you see him as your best friend, rather than your boyfriend. Tell him your love for him is not like to be in a relationship, so you want to break up with him.
I refuse to help a cheater.





Come clean and tell the truth, ';I met a better lay.';
tell him you lost interest with him and you need to move on chances he wont believe you tho
1. Acknowledge that the relationship is really over. Come to terms with your own feelings and make a firm decision to end the relationship.





2. Don't delay the inevitable. Once you decide to break up with your partner, immediately think about how, when and where you will take action.





3. Make sure you're the one who personally delivers the news. Don't give a third party the opportunity to tell your partner that you want to break up before you have the chance to discuss the matter alone.





4. Select a private place to meet with your partner to end the relationship.





5. Find or schedule an appropriate time. Approach the topic when both of you are calm and rational. Don't announce your intention to break up during a heated argument or a moment of anger.





6. Show your resolve by being firm, decisive and honest. Help your partner understand why you want to end the relationship. Be tactful, not brutal.





7. Remind your partner that you'll never forget the positive qualities in your relationship, but emphasize that you're ready to move on with your life.





8. Give your partner the closure that he or she needs to accept the breakup; answer questions and talk it over instead of leaving loose ends.





9. Stay positive as you both make plans to go your separate ways.





Tips:


Let go of old grievances during a breakup. The end of a relationship isn't the appropriate time to bring up old grudges.








Warnings:


If your partner does not agree to the breakup, don't allow him or her to manipulate you into staying in the relationship.
you have already ****** him over by cheating on him...he is not your best friend if you were able to disrespect him and yourself...tell him you are sorry, you value your friendship but you no longer want to date...give him space and let him get over it, stay away from him and try not to whore around for a little while...no need for him to see you with this other guy right away...next time, be open and honest and end your relationships before cheating...
do me! and i'll tell him!!!!!! come on!
too bad he won't know how lucky he really is for being free of you.
100% honesty is what I say...if he is your best friend then sooner or later he will forgive you for cheating! It is better that he heard it from you and not someone else down the road because that hurts more than anything as not only you lied to him but he will look at it like you truely didn't care about him!! Be honest and stand up for what you have done...He deserves the truth
tell him everything you just said to us minus the cheating if you would like to leave that out
DONT CHANGE UR UNDIES FOR SOME DAYS,HE WILL RUN AWAY!!
tell him what you just told us
unless you are honest, he'll never remain your best friend. the truth ALWAYS comes out and in the long run he'll be LESS upset if it comes from you. If he hears or finds out from someone or someway else.......................you can kiss that WHOLE friendship goodbye.
Have a big fight make him leave u.... : )
will maybe next time don't cheat on him
First of all, don't tell him you cheated and don't tell him about the other man, because that will only make him feel worse. As well, it will cloud the issue, which is that you two haven't been happy for a while (I'm assuming.) There is no real gentle way to break this off, because there is so much history, so i agree that you should tell the truth, but the truth about what's lacking in your relationship. As much as it might be hurt, he can't argue with facts. But at the same time, a way to diffuse things is to also be ';honest'; about what you were lacking in the relationship. Because if you only come with the perspective that ';you did this'; and ';you did that'; he'll just be defensive and it will be VERY ugly.





And in regards to the whole friendship thing, its over! Because even if he agrees to be friends and he can get over his anger at being dumped, the second he finds out about the other guy, he more than likely won't forgive and forget. So cut your loses, and come to grips with the fact that there is no easy way to end this, and your boyfriend will get hurt in the end. But hey, it happens, nobody is the hero all the time.
tell him why you don't want to be with him any longer. honesty is the best thing for a break up.





i feel sick to my stomach when i hear about people cheating.
just say this isn't working out....i need to be in a deeper relationship...and then say goodbye...atleast thats wht i would do
you should of done that before you cheated on him. but whats done is done and the best thing to do is take him to a public place,tell him that your feelings have changed for him. Tell him this isnt easy for you to do, but its not fair to either one of you to be in this relationship right now. If you can, tell him you want to see other people if not leave it as that. Dont compromise. Dont candy coat anything, tell him truthfully how you feel he just might thank you for the honesty later. you never know he may be having the same felings too. Maybe even a break to see if this is what you really want or not.good luck and the sooner the better.
How would you like someone to break up with you after 3 years? Would you like them to mull it over for a couple of weeks while they sleep with someone else? Or would you like them to tell you the truth (I don't want to be in a relationship with you anymore) so you can be hurt a little while but move on. You care for him so much that you can move on with your new life and new guy while he's stuck with someone who doesn't want him and preventing him from meeting someone who does. I bet you hope no one ever cares about you that much, right?