Not in a abusive relationaship, need advice on how to go about telling him I am leaving.?

Money problems, sex problems, step children problems, and yes have been seeing someone else for over 3 years,I am not happy anymore and want to move on.Not in a abusive relationaship, need advice on how to go about telling him I am leaving.?
Just come out and tell him how you feel that the both of you are wasting your time in a relationship that has faded away..Not in a abusive relationaship, need advice on how to go about telling him I am leaving.?
What are you waiting for?
3 years? I doubt you know how to be honest. I can't help but wonder if some of your own lack of happiness is of your own creation. But with little detail and knowing how complex relationships can get - been in a few strange ones myself, I can't say what is right or wrong.





Personally I would say be direct and move on. But I would also say that maybe you have some communication probs that have kept you in this so long and led to 3 year affair.
Best I can say is just do it. Set him down, tell him what you are feeling and try to move on. I know that would be the hardest day in my life telling my husband I am leaving, I feel your pain. But if you keep it up any longer, when he finds out about the other guy and how your feeling, it might kill him. Just be upfront and honest.
Just tell him you need to move on and he needs someone who can love him the way he deserves to be loved.


But make it clear you are leaving and there is nothing he can do or say to change your mind.Well that is if there isn't anything he can do or say.But since you have been seeing someone else then yeah you need to break it off.He deserves to be free to find someone to love him as much as he loves.
PLEASE MOVE ON!!


And why would you have to tell him anything!


If he's abusive, telling him would be the last thing I'd do.


JUST GO.


Make plans and get out.


Not sure if it's you or him who's been seeing someone else for


3 years, but either way, you don't need to be together.


Do yourself a favor and make plans to leave.


Surely you can figure something out.


Little by little, secretly get things out of the house that you'll need.


Leave your things with a friend or family member.


It may take a month, maybe less, but the sooner you get out the better for both of you.
He's probably already aware there are problems...wait for a quiet moment and talk with him about it
The truth in a restuarant is the best way.
You were finished 3 years ago. What has taken you so long?


Who's place is it? Maybe HE should leave.


You're unhappy, that's all the reason needed......End it now.


Best Wishes!
You should be ashamed of yourself for fooling your husband into thinking he was the only one you were having sex with.I don't care what your husband has done no one but no one deserves to be cheated on .The pain is unbearable. You will get what you want for now but wait until your man finds another wife to take away from her husband then you will be left like you left your husband.
Just tell him this is not working and it's 2007 and you want to move on. That's It! I did that in the past. And if he needs an explanation tell him you are not happy.
Geeeeeeesh, it IS an abusive relationship. Emotional abuse.


Sounds like he has taken away your backbone aka standing up for yourself.





WOW three years is a long time to have a thrid party in the mix.





Pack your bags and tell him that the relationship is over. It is that simple.





Just do it. And do it soon.
obviously this is a hard decision for you. You should write down what you want to say. This will make it much easier.





1) Make a list of things you want to do with your life.


2) Make a list of reasons you want to leave.


3) Make a list of reasons you should stay.





Next. If you are going to leave, try and leave out the fact you have been seeing someone else for 3 years now. That will just fuel the fire.





Write down what you what you want to say. Have the notes with you. Pack some essentials, you not going to want to after your talk. Have your things in the car ready. Most likely one of you will not be staying at home that night. Don't forget about the KIDS..they did not ask for this...Even if they are not your biological children, they still are not your husband...





Go back and get your things with someone...a friend....female preferably.





Its almost like a band aid, do it fast, dont drag it out. Explain your feelings, get it over with, dont argue, then have it done..DO NOT TELL HIM ABOUT YOUR OTHER PARTNER....





GL





you will feel 100% better once your through this...